Embracing the Journey: A Mom’s Path Through Anxiety and Depression

For a long time, I couldn’t even say it out loud. Anxiety. Depression. PTSD. It sounded too heavy, too broken — like a label I didn’t want to wear. But deep down, I knew something wasn’t right. I wasn’t just a tired mom. I was a surviving mom.

It Didn’t Start With Motherhood

Becoming a mom didn’t cause my anxiety — it just amplified what was already there. My trauma didn’t begin in the delivery room or during sleepless nights with a newborn. It began years earlier, in environments that weren’t safe, in relationships that weren’t healthy, in moments where I was taught to silence myself just to survive.

I grew up learning how to hide pain behind strength. I became the girl who smiled when she was hurting. The one who took care of others but never asked for anything. I was constantly on edge — waiting for the next thing to go wrong. Eventually, that constant tension turned into anxiety I couldn’t shut off, sadness I couldn’t explain, and memories I couldn’t escape.

Trauma That Stays in the Body

I’ve experienced things I wouldn’t wish on anyone — moments of betrayal, emotional and physical violations, abandonment, and loss. These things made me question my worth, my voice, and my safety. Some of those experiences still haunt me. Loud noises startle me. Crowded rooms drain me. And some nights, I lie awake replaying things I wish never happened. That’s PTSD — not just a soldier’s diagnosis, but a survivor’s reality.

Motherhood didn’t erase that trauma — it sometimes made it harder. I felt guilty for struggling. I felt ashamed for not being the happy, energetic mom I wanted to be.

Finding the Words — and the Strength

It took me a long time to understand that what I went through changed me, but it didn’t destroy me. My anxiety isn’t weakness. My depression isn’t failure. My PTSD isn’t something to be ashamed of. These are the scars of someone who kept going.

Now, I use my story to create space for others — moms like you — who feel like they’re holding it all together while quietly falling apart. That’s why I created Momciety: not as a place to pretend everything’s okay, but as a space where we can be honest, supported, and reminded that healing is possible.

You’re Not Alone

If you’re reading this and your chest feels tight because it sounds too familiar — I want you to know: You’re not dramatic. You’re not weak. You’re responding to pain your body and mind never got a break from. And here, in this space, you don’t have to hide anymore. We’re healing out loud — together.

Understanding Anxiety and Depression

What Is Anxiety?

Anxiety is more than just feeling nervous. It’s a constant state of worry that can feel overwhelming. It can manifest in physical symptoms like a racing heart or trouble sleeping. Understanding anxiety is the first step in managing it.

The Impact of Depression

Depression can feel like a heavy blanket that suffocates joy. It can make even the simplest tasks feel monumental. Recognizing the signs of depression is crucial. It’s okay to seek help. You don’t have to face this alone.

Coping Strategies for Moms

Mindfulness and Meditation

Practicing mindfulness can help ground you. Taking a few moments each day to breathe deeply can make a difference. Meditation apps can guide you through this process, making it easier to find peace amidst chaos.

Seeking Professional Help

Don’t hesitate to reach out for professional support. Therapists can provide tools and strategies tailored to your unique experiences. You deserve to be heard and understood.

Building a Support Network

Surround yourself with people who understand. Whether it’s friends, family, or online communities, having a support network can help you feel less isolated. Sharing your feelings can lighten the load.

Embracing Your Journey

Celebrate Small Wins

Every step forward is a victory. Celebrate the small wins, whether it’s getting out of bed or taking a moment for yourself. These moments matter.

Practice Self-Compassion

Be gentle with yourself. It’s okay to have bad days. Acknowledge your feelings without judgment. You are doing your best, and that’s enough.

Finding Joy in Everyday Moments

Look for joy in the little things. Whether it’s a warm cup of tea or a hug from your child, these moments can bring light to your day.

Conclusion: A Path to Healing

Healing is not linear. It’s a journey filled with ups and downs. Remember, you are not alone in this. Together, we can navigate the challenges of motherhood, anxiety, and depression.

Let’s continue to support each other, share our stories, and create a community where every mom feels understood and empowered. You are strong, and you are worthy of healing.

By T. Jae